Handling a lying child



When you catch your child in a lie, it’s natural to feel betrayed, hurt, angry and frustrated. But here’s the truth: lying is normal. It’s wrong, but it’s normal. In fact, we all do it to some degree. I believe that with kids, lying is a faulty problem–solving skill. It’s our job as parents to teach our children how to solve those problems in more constructive ways.


Why Kids Lie?


  • cover something up so they don’t get into trouble

  • see how you’ll respond when you hear them lie

  • make their story more exciting or make themselves sound better

  • get attention, even when they know you know the truth

  • get something they want – for example, saying to grandma, ‘Mum lets me have lollies before dinner’.



When do children start lying?



Children can learn to tell lies from an early age, usually by around three years of age. This is when your child starts to realise that you aren’t a mind reader, so he can say things that aren’t true without you always knowing.

Children lie more at 4-6 years. Your child might get better at telling lies by matching her facial expressions and the tone of her voice to what she’s saying. If you ask her to explain what she’s saying, she’ll usually own up.

When children reach school-age, they might lie more often and can be better at lying. The lies also get more complicated, because your child has more words and is better at understanding how other people think.

By eight years, children can lie successfully without getting caught out.

CR : http://raisingchildren.net.au/



Posted by Enginou
on May 28, 2016 at 17:25

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